SWEEPING PROBLEMS UNDER THE CARPET AND PRETENDING THEY ARE NOT THERE, MAKE THEM ONLY BIGGER…
Unfortunately, sweeping problems under the carpet and pretending that they are not there, make them only bigger and it was like that in my case. Because of inactivity I gained even more weight, and my self-esteem reached the level of absolute zero. I was ashamed to leave home, talk to people – both face to face and on the phone. Every activity in the real world – not related to computer games – was terrifying me.
In such state of mind, even going outside to do shopping caused panic. During this period I completely shut myself in – I did not talk to anyone about my problems. Constant absences at school and depression, in which I was up to the eyes, influenced very negatively my relationships with my peers. I come from a broken family, I grew up without a father, I do not have a sibling (I actually have a half brother, but he lives in the US and we hardly keep in contact with each other), and from the rest of the family I moved away shortly after I gained weight. My mother loved me very much, but she wasn’t really aware of my condition. Of course, she saw that something was going on with me, but she thought I was suffering mainly from headaches. I was hiding my complexes and even my obesity – I constantly was wearing a loose vest, which, to some extent, helped me to hide a bit, and because my mother worked a lot, it was not so difficult. While it is true that my mom was taking me to different doctors but it was just a waste of time and extra stress for both of us.
Actually for most of my life the only friend of mine was a cat. If I have to be honest, I cannot describe the emotional bond that connected me with this animal. I felt lonely and on my own.
month and I was regularly suffering from very strong, sometimes severe, headaches.
Most physicians simply said that I simulate, not to go to school and play computer games. This was also the case with the famous professor of laryngology – the head of one of the Warsaw hospitals, who at the very beginning said that he did not believe in my “magical” asymptomatic headaches, but because I was very persistent – he directed me to computer tomography of my head and sinuses.
When I came back to him with the results, he grabbed his head and apologized to me. It turned out that I had partial hypoxia due to the extensive blockage of all the sinuses that caused extremely severe pain. He directed me urgently to his laryngological ward (which was then renovated) and a few days later I was lying on the operating table. As a result of the renovation works in the laryngology department, only patients in critical condition were admitted and placed in the oncology ward. In rooms for 2-3 people, 5-6 beds were pushed. Patients were even placed in the corridors. In this way, at the age of 13, I spent a lot of time in the company of patients with various types of cancer, a large part of them were in an agonizing state. (Thanks to this experience I have never touched a cigarette and so far I do not allow people to smoke in my company)